Words About Pronouns

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Capitalized pronouns. Many dislike them and will go so far as to not talk to people who use them; some love them and use them in everyday speech. A few think that they're ridiculous, unnecessary, a waste of time. I've even heard people say that they're excessive, pretentious, even showy. I wanted to share my opinion on capitalized pronouns since, after all, it's the only one that counts, right? I haven't written here in a long time, and I kept wondering what I was going to do. But I do that often, forget to update and then become indecisive about what to write. So here we go, a post about capitalized pronouns. Keep in mind that this is all my opinion; others have different opinions on the subject, so do not simply take mine as word.

Their Use
A submissive may capitalize their Dominant's pronouns during speech either to their Dominant or to others to show respect and acknowledgement of their place against their Dominant (or likewise, their Dominant's place against them). It shows the inequality, something that I personally strive for in a D/s relationship. The submissive is lesser, lower. The Dominant is the upper hand. Another aspect to capitalized pronouns is the "God" aspect, the viewing of one's Dominant as a God and as a sentient being. When a submissive views their Dominant as their God, it's a form of devotion; it puts the Dominant on a pedestal where no one else sits. In contrast to the capitalization of the Dominant's pronouns, the submissive may lowercase all words of self, such as pronouns or their name, for the same reason.

Usually, a Dominant will follow basic grammar rules during type and letters to others. They may deliberately lowercase their property's name or pronouns, but not their own because it's the submissive's job to do so. Say a Dominant was writing to a friend or sending an invitation to a party. They may simply lowercase the name of their submissive, but all other things will follow proper capitalization rules. It's not really the Dominant's job to make a fuss over pronouns or show their dominance by capitalizing every one of their own pronouns when referring to themselves or lowercasing each of the submissive's pronouns (even when the sentence begins) of their submissive's.

The basic point of it all is that it shows the difference. It shows the separation of the two, allowing them to be opposite sides of one coin. Quite honestly, as someone who loves capitalized pronouns, it also sends shivers up my spine when I see someone submit to me in that way. It says so much in one simple action of rejecting to hit the shift key or hitting it when it comes to me.

The Dilemma
Dominants capitalizing their own pronouns is something that I cannot comprehend. It's actually something that I see more frequently than the capitalization of a Dominant's pronouns by a submissive, sadly enough. If it's hard to understand what I mean by that, I'm talking about the capitalization of every possessive pronoun during conversation with anyone, words such as "my" and "mine." To put it plainly, this completely destroys the purpose of capitalized pronouns. When a Dominant capitalizes their own pronouns, they are basically saying that they are their own Dominant.

A friend of mine made a valid but incorrectly led point of how Dominants need to be able to maintain themselves in order to maintain a submissive, and that is why they would capitalize their own pronouns. While this is true, that thought process does not apply to capitalized pronouns. Maintenance and management, while both necessary, does not make a Dominant their own Dominant. It simply doesn't make sense, unless of course you happen to be your own Dominant. Which in that case, by all means, have fun capitalizing the words "my" and "mine." But if you're not, it truly looks quite absurd.

Personally, the only word that I capitalize (other than those that should be capitalized, so says grammar) is my title, Sir. Nothing more, nothing less. I also lowercase my slave's name, girl (or in the few times that her name is used, that is lowercased as well).

A Few Uses and Examples
A submissive to their Dominant
  • May i get this for You, Sir/Ma'am/Miss?
  • How are You today?
  • Do You require anything of me, Sir?
  • Is there anything i can do for You?
  • i really enjoyed the paddle You used, thank You.

A Dominant to their submissive
  • You did well, pet.
  • slave, would you get me some water?
  • Thank you for serving me so well, girl/boy.

Are Capitalized Pronouns for You?
This is something that you have to decide on your own. They're not for everyone; in fact, they're not for most. It's hard enough to try and get grammar down, but to add that element in is another task completely. It's something that a person would need to try out to see if they like. For some, it keeps them grounded. It keeps them forever conscious of their place. For others, it's just a bother and it takes too much of them (which is perfectly understandable, being a submissive or Dominant is a lot of work). For me, it's something I enjoy receiving because it makes me feel like I am viewed so highly, which is a sensation that I cannot get enough of.
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