30 Days of Kink: My Choice

Day 30: Whatever BDSM/kink related thing you want to write about.

Since I've been in an awfully aggressive and forceful mood lately, I'd like to talk about something that is very prominent in my life and my intimacy style: rape play. Or, as I term it, rape. Yes, for those of you who have this as a trigger, I definitely suggest to not continue reading and to ignore the rest of this post completely. I would not want to cause any ill-feelings in my followers, unless they enjoy such things, of course.

I am an extreme force and aggression player. I've always been rough during sex, and even rougher while playing with someone, but there are times when I need something more...carnal. More animal. Less about pleasure and more about adrenaline rushes and pure sensation. I write of it quite frequently, actually, on my deviantART account and in other places (like on my Fetlife). It's not so much a fascination to me as it is a reality. The want to overcome another and feel them weaken and break beneath me. And while many have a certain distaste for those terms, there's no other way for me to describe it. It isn't that I want my prey to be weak, no. I want them to be weak to me. To be strong enough to the outside world but weak to one is the most honorable thing a person can be.

It's beautiful.

There are so many things wrong with this interest of mine, I realize that. And that's honestly what makes it the hardest to voice (among a few others), the fact that I know how others feel about it and the last thing that I want to do is make other people [who are not my love or relationship interests] uncomfortable. The feeling is potent in my mind, and the implications of it are completely apparent. Complete submission, not only that my one knows, but that I know too. The only way I can feel it is if I have gained that, if I can feel it in my blood that I have the upper hand. It's the other way around, for most. Most submissives need to feel weak to their Dominant, but most Dominants do not enjoy that. I, however, do. I need to feel stronger. I need to feel like I can overcome them (even though I will admit there's something alluring about having a submissive who is stronger).

I'm for equality among human beings, but I do not really enjoy it within my relationships. I love the difference of rank and status. It's not that the person I am with, who is my "lesser," as I term it, is not meaningful to me, no. It's that they are meaningful enough that I have given them the right to be called lesser, lower than me. It takes a lot of courage and strength, dignity, for someone to be considered that, in my opinion. I wouldn't consider anyone that, honestly. I see everyone as my equal. Aside from, of course, that one person who becomes my lesser. It puts them somewhere where no one else in the world is, and that, to me, is more of an honor than anything else.

Amusing how this ended up becoming more of a rant than anything else. Ah well, it's the last post in the sequence, I suppose that it should include more of my thoughts on things that I enjoy than anything else, right? And perhaps you all enjoy reading my mindless rants about nothing in particular. But to get back to my thoughts on rape play, ravishment, whatever you term it, it's something that I thoroughly enjoy and require. It gets me off like no other, to be blunt. I love the look in a person's eyes when they've given up and surrendered. It's that split second realization of "I can't win against you." Or, in my case, "You're powerless to me." And that, to me, is pure beauty.

-Sir

30 Days of Kink: Titles

Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title (e.g. mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, princess, goddess, ma’am, sir)? What is your opinion of the use of titles in general?

I do indeed have a title. Currently, my only title is Sir, though in the past, it has been many things: King, Daddy, Master, Your Highness, Mi'lord, God, Satan, and so on, so forth. I honestly enjoy titles. My favorite would have to be when someone refers to me as their King, but that's extremely intimate and reserved for certain people and situations. More commonly, I like "Sir." "Sir" is fitting for me; it's short, direct, and to the point.

Titles, in my opinion, aren't so much important as they are something that comes naturally. Generally speaking, titles are meaningless to me—how a person acts and carries themselves means more than a simple word on a placard. I place a high value on titles because, if used, the person with the title must be able to back that title up. I would not consider myself a Dominant or Sir if I did not hold myself to the level of decency that I do. I feel the same for submissives and slaves, and while there is no one "right" way to be either, I do expect a certain level of respect and decency from most everyone involved in the lifestyle who considers themselves either side of the coin.

It's honestly a conversation that I have with people often. It's something that tells you a lot about a person, when you know their opinion on the use of titles. But what is more interesting, in my opinion, are the titles that they enjoy. That speaks levels of their character and says a lot about who they are as a person. It's like with me and enjoying the title of being a slave's King. People can gather from that what they will, but in reality, it has far-reaching implications. Most just consider it a title of power, but it's more than that, to me. It describes both the level that I would like to rule someone as well as the era that interests me and dominates my personality (even though I am primarily 1950s).

What titles mean to most will differ from what they mean to me. Everyone has their own definition of their title, so the best course of action, in my opinion, is to just get to know a person, without the filter of titles. One will manifest itself over time, whether it's Sir, asshole, pet, girl, little one, or Daddy.

30 Days of Kink: Dress-up

Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play? What significance does your attire have to you?

It truly depends on the situation. I've never been one for dress-up or roleplay (as I stated in one of the earlier days), but I do like to dress up. Dress up, as in, wear something nice or something that I enjoy, like leather. I also am very partial to suits, if I haven't said that enough. Boots or suit shoes are a must, except on rare occasions when I wear leather sandals. I do not find the way that I dress to be specifically for anything, though. It's mainly just for myself and for my own enjoyment.

My attire is significant to me in that I care very much about it. Though I do not care about others' outward appearance, I care very much about mine. I am very particular in my style of dress and the things that I wear, how they fit me, what color combinations they have. I enjoy looking good, and I like to wear things that I feel are attractive on me. Though this does somewhat connect to how I dress for play, play does not make me change into something "better" or more "fitting" because I feel that whatever clothing I was already wearing is fitting enough.

Candy Jaguar Cuffs by ASLAN Leather

I think that it's common knowledge that Aslan Leather makes excellent quality leather pieces. I have so many things made by them that it's almost hard to count. To add to my fairly large collection of their equipment, the Pink Candy Jaguar cuffs add a hint of sweetness yet retain the quality materials that Aslan Leather is known for. I cannot describe how happy I was when Edenfantasys sent these to me. I wouldn't have expected any less or any more—the cuffs are exactly as they should be.

The cuffs have two layers of leather that are of average thickness and an extremely thick buckle strap on the outside. They're flexible, durable, and well-made. With a total of seven rivets (double row surrounding the d-ring), the Candy Jaguar cuffs have no way of coming apart due to ripping or tearing. They're artfully made, and it shows in the stitching and care used to craft them. The edges of the leather are not finished by being folded over, but they are cut on a bias in order to have an aesthetically pleasing appearance. As much as I would have preferred the leather folded over, it would have been far too bulky. When the cuffs are first received, they are extremely stiff and inflexible, so keep this in mind when purchasing. It does cause them to be slightly difficult to adjust, but not so much that they are unusable. They will most likely take many uses to soften up, but over time, they will.

Lined with white leather and bearing a pink outer layer, the Candy Jaguar cuffs are simply adorable. If you've seen Aslan's Jaguar cuffs, then you know that they're very trim and straight-forward. They don't have any frills or accouterments on them, nothing added that may get in the way or distract from the sensation of wearing cuffs. Just thick leather against skin. But the thing that sets the Candy set (there is also a collar) apart from Aslan Leather's original Jaguar cuffs is that the leather is more plush. When comparing the thicknesses, you can see that the Candy Jaguar cuffs have a slightly thicker layer of lining than the original cuffs do. I do believe that this not only adds to their comfort, but their sweetness as well.

But don't let the sweetness fool you. The cuffs feature a locking buckle and a thick, firm buckle strap (the strap is white like the lining). They're moderately heavy-duty cuffs, even though they are both comfortable and plush. I wouldn't say that they can be used for suspension, though tie-ups and metal links are always options for connecting the cuffs. They don't come with any connectors, but you can find those easily in most stores.

For fit, the cuffs have the capability of fitting a wide range of sizes. There are six slots for adjustment with the locking buckle, each spaced ¼" apart. When laid flat, the cuffs measure 11½" from tip of the buckle strap to the edge of the cuff. However, they only fit sizes 5" to 9" around. This means that if you or your partner has ankles in this range, they can double as ankle cuffs. But if you don't, I would say that your best bet is to get only one pair for the wrists (which is what I did). The cuffs are not a wide pair of cuffs, but they're not very thin either at a width of 2". I would call them fairly average. The buckle strap is an inch in width.

One of the biggest problems with the Candy Jaguar set is not one with how they are made (unsurprisingly, even though they are firm and need to be broken in); it's due to the white leather. Most people will tell you what a pain upkeep is for anything white (clothes, shoes, furniture), so leather is no different. It gets stained easily and can possibly absorb the color of things around it, so I suggest keeping the cuffs hung up somewhere where there is no possibility of this happening. They can also always be kept in a plastic baggie to keep them safe from harm. On that note, when storing them, make sure to keep them out of direct sunlight and in a place that is not damp (do not keep them in your bathroom, for instance). Leather requires proper care, but if it cared for relatively well, it will last for a long, long time.

On the comfort side of things, the cuffs are fairly comfortable due to having the slightly plush, smooth leather interior, but because of the firmness of the buckle strap, they can be a little less movable and natural feeling. With more use they'll soften up, but until then, try to grin and bear it. It's really not that unpleasant of a feeling, it's just slightly more awkward than leather cuffs that have been broken in.

You simply cannot go wrong when buying products from Aslan, and since every product is backed by a lifetime guarantee, you will be set for life. Me personally, I am somewhat of a collector, so I could never be happy with just one pair. They're certainly a nice addition to what I already have, and because of the pink and white leather, they're also unique. If pink isn't your thing, Edenfantasys also carries the Candy Jaguar cuffs in baby blue (my favorite color, actually). Though I will admit that they are fairly expensive  at $58 (more so than some other leather cuffs out there), they are very good quality and Aslan Leather does have their guarantee, so it's more safety than other companies offer.

If you're interested in purchasing the Candy Jaguar cuffs, head on over to Edenfantasys. They're $58, like I said, but I find them to be worth the price. In addition to the matching collar, there's also two styles of harnesses to choose from that match the set as well. If you want a little discount, enter my partner code B5P at your checkout to get 15% off.

Note: They did come in a plastic, resealable baggie. I suggest keeping this for storage to keep the white leather as clean as possible. Even though no one really will see it, I'm somewhat obsessive over the state of my cuffs, so I kept the baggie.

$57.99Pink candy jaguar cuffs Wrist cuffs by Aslan Leather Material: Leather Safety: Buy from EdenFantasys

This product was provided free of charge to the reviewer.

30 Days of Kink: Non-kink in Kink Play?

Day 27: Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?

I cannot really say for sure, honestly. Everything that I do simply encompasses me. Especially with the type of person I am, I cannot detach myself from my interests as a whole. Some of my interests are mathematics, music, and art (either written or drawn), but something that I really enjoy is teaching. I work at a tutoring center and I absolutely love it. I do believe that that plays a part in the type of Dominant I am, since I am very guiding.

Aside from that, I do not roleplay any situations, so I wouldn't say that I do the whole "teacher/student" thing, even though I sometimes take on the role of being a teacher to my lesser. I would say that, truly, all of my interests, including the lifestyle, make up who I am. To say that any part of me disappears when in different settings would be untrue. I am who I am, no matter where I may be.

30 Days of Kink: Playing on the Internet

Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?

Well, we've just walked into some murky water here, haven't we? See, the lifestyle online has not been a good experience for me. My ex of four years and I were actually in a long-distance relationship, so much of our time was online, both playing and training. Sad, but true. For some reason, she thought that she could disobey me since I couldn't see what she was doing. Funny, no? But my opinion on online playing is that it can work for some, but I'm not interested in it. In fact, I'm not interested in many of the things I used to be interested in.

I'm not interested in seeing a partner on webcam.

I'm not interested in engaging in cyber sex with a partner, regardless of the circumstances.

I'm not interested in having my submissive punish themselves with a belt or other tool, as it does me no good because they never do it hard enough.

Online play and having any form of relationship over the internet is usually just not good. It's not good for me because I cannot trust people long-distance, or even who live fifteen minutes away. I have extreme trust issues (when I say extreme, I mean it) and it is very difficult, nearing impossible, to get me to trust a person completely. This is why I have these views. I'm not saying that it's bad for anyone, because it's not. It can be a good thing. I can introduce someone to what the BDSM community has to offer. It can introduce a person to the possibilities, the ideas, what can happen. But it can also be bad, if not done correctly.

In general, for people new to the lifestyle, I would say that finding a mentor is the best route to take. I never had one, sadly, and I'm still trying to find someone who I find honorable enough to mentor me and teach me the proper ways to use certain tools and mediums. I only know just enough to get by, and I find that unacceptable. However, as I was saying, the best thing for a person new to this wonderful BDSM world is to find a mentor who shares common interests and values and then for them to get themselves exposed both to the local community and perhaps different implements and methods of play. The internet can be a great source for many things, but practice makes perfect in so many ways, and the only way to practice is to do.

I do hope that this post made sense. My mind is a bit jumbled lately from all of the work I've been doing with my courses and everything else, so do forgive me. If you need any clarification on anything I've said, just let me know!

-Sir

30 Days of Kink: Transparency

Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?

Generally, I'm the sort of person that tells it like it is and doesn't sugarcoat things. I am completely open about my being in the BDSM lifestyle as well as my side job on Edenfantasys as a reviewer. I am open about it at work, I am open about it with my family members, and I am open about it with friends and potential partners. I don't leave anything secret, but I do warn that if the person doesn't want to be either shocked or surprised by information that they should keep their questions to themselves.

Since I have a slave now, I do not refer to her in conversation by her first name. It's simply not something I use often. I refer to her as the slave, my slave, or my girl. People's eyes might go wide, but I do not really care too much. If they didn't want to talk to me, they don't have to, and I'll leave them alone. If they ask me to keep the information to myself, I will. But if they ask questions, they are consenting to receive answers, and it simply isn't my fault that they disliked the answers they received.

I stand by my lifestyle choice, and it is who I am. It does not affect me in a work environment. In fact, I think that it enhances it, since I am able to both stand up for myself and bow when I need to (to my higher ups and superiors) since I understand hierarchy and where I fall down the line. It also makes me a better teacher, more patient, understanding, and conscious of the words I use and the things I say to my students. If an employer dislikes my lifestyle choice, well, that is their choice to dislike it. But it is my choice to engage in it. I do not bring it to my work space, I do not bring my riding crops or canes with me to work. I am very professional, and good at what I do, so I see no reason to hide who I am.

On the whole, it's just a part of me, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

30 Days of Kink: The Perfect Partner?

Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?

I was waiting for this one. It's actually a very good question, because I have an extensive lists of qualities that attract my attention, none of them having to do with physical appearance. The first two things are this: when a person is compassionate for others and when they have an open mind. Then from there, submission, subservience, the need to serve under a Dominant. I enjoy obedience and domesticity. Slight masochism, though this is not necessary. Someone who I can relate to on many levels, who shares a lot of my ideals. A person who is a good, genuine individual.

Recently, I wrote a private journal entry of my idea of the "perfect" partner. It went a little something like this:

Enjoys cooking, cleaning, and folding laundry. Must want children, must be very playful and fun. Must have a childish side to connect with the children, and must have a childish side that I can play with. Submissive, masochistic, not afraid to voice their wants. Open-minded, accepting, not degrading to other individuals. Loving of human beings, sweet and kind. Frail and weak, but strong enough to be abused. Must have a strong will to others, but have the capability of being weak to one person (me). Must have compassion for others, care about the human condition, but understand when to say 'no' to others. Must remove the word 'no' from their vocabulary when speaking to me, unless told otherwise. Must be willing to give up themselves, their mind, their actions. Must want to be controlled, must feel safe in being controlled. Needs to enjoy whatever their partner deems they should, and must have love in their heart to give to their partner. Has to enjoy going out on dates, staying in and watching films, or eating cheesecake for breakfast. Needs to find pleasure in sitting at another's feet while the other reads or does work. Needs to be in a calm state of mind, and easily broken in. Must not play head games or test others' patience. Must be upfront and honest about all of their wants, needs, and desires. Needs to be faithful and want a committed relationship. Needs to want marriage and full-time commitment. Needs to enjoy being a housewife and enjoy greeting their partner when they come home from work.

What I need from a partner, and their qualities will show this, is sweetness and kindness. I love it when a slave is sweet, cute, and adorable. It makes me proud. I need a partner who will make me proud, and who other Dominants will salivate over, wishing that they had a slave as wonderful as mine. I do not really care about the exterior, it's more of how they carry themselves. I become more attracted and stuck on the way a person moves than on how they look. It's actually one of the things I fell in love with about my ex little girl—the way her little hands picked up things, how her feet were situated when she stood, the way she looked crouched and small when she spoke. That, to me, is beautiful.

I find it beautiful when a slave takes pain not only because they like it, but because they like to be of pleasure to their Dominant. That's another thing that I look for in a partner—the willingness to please and satisfy. Though I'm actually very big on satisfying my partner as well, I prefer it when they go out of their way to please me, to make me happy, to make me proud. Another thing is that a partner should not give their submission so easily. I do not like that. I do not like to fight for it, no, but I do not like it when the person immediately gives it to me. It makes me feel that I am nothing special, that if they could so easily hand over their submission that it is of no value. Over time, if a slave hands over power, I enjoy that. It's good, it shows me that not only they're warming up to me, but that they're also finding me worthy of their true submission. There's no better feeling in the world.

Another thing that is good in a partner, though not required, is a want to better themselves. I don't necessarily find charity cases, per se, but I do like it when the person feels that they could use improvement. It makes me feel like I have a purpose as their Dominant, and an obligation to help them get there. I personally am very focused on the future and on success in terms of career, so it makes me very pleased when a person is too. Even if they have that drive but not the means, it's nice to see that they are willing to move forward with their life. As someone who is a bit obsessive compulsive when it comes to cleanliness, I would probably require that the person knows how to clean.

Well, after writing all of that, I realize that I probably expect too much. I've always known that, but people have told me otherwise. However, I don't personally think that it's exactly a lot, if I were to find the right person. My philosophy on that is that if someone truly had the desire to fulfill that role in my life, be my everything and receive everything in return, then they would be willing to put up with all that I require and expect. I give a lot back. It may seem like I don't because I am a Dominant, but I do. I give back that sense of security, I give back a person who is understanding and caring, I give back a person who is committed and real and who knows what he wants. I'm responsible and am going somewhere in my life. Most everything that I do, I do it so that I can be a better Dominant to someone someday. It's a give and take, always, and that's how I prefer it.

30 Days of Kink: Changes

Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed? How so?

My first reaction to this question was, "No shit, Sherlock!" Of course my perspectives and interests have changed! I originally started out as primarily a person who was into the play aspect, and it developed into a need for the 24/7 lifestyle. I had been interested in it, as I've said many times, from early childhood. As I grew, things definitely changed. I learned more about myself, about my role, about where I stood in life. I'm still learning, though my interests are not going anywhere at this point. I've been pretty stagnant in my likes and dislikes, interests and hard limits for quite a long time. Sad as that may sound, I'm content with being who I am now.

It's certainly interesting because I try to remember now how I was back then, and I can't. I always had that something in me that made me this way—that's all that I can describe it as, that "something." It's like one of those atoms that they put in the lab and let grow—that's almost how it was with me. So as it grew, my interests grew, my knowledge grew, and I'm still learning at this point. Everything that I know is from my own teaching and experience. I didn't have a mentor to guide me through it, which I wish that I had because it would have made everything a lot easier. I believe that my perspective of a Dominant's role has changed an awful lot, though. I sort of came into it with the thought that the slave merely obeyed and that was it (which it is this way, sometimes). But it's more of a give and take, hence why I love the term "power exchange." The Dominant and submissive or Master and slave give and take power, it's an exchange between the two. You give me everything of yourself and I provide comfort and security.

BDSM is a long journey. People have been in it for decades and are still growing in terms of their role and their likes and dislikes. At this point, I know what I want—years ago, I didn't. But now, I know exactly what I need in a partner, in a slave, and I am brought all that much closer to eventually one day having it.

30 Days of Kink: Necessities

Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

I would like to note that my answer to this response is not how all BDSM relationships are. This is unique to me and other people who share my level of protocol. Do not misunderstand and think that all Dominants feel the same as I do—many do not.

A BDSM, 24/7 relationship needs most things that a vanilla relationship needs and more. Complete trust, complete faith, and a total giving of yourself into that relationship. It needs both partners working at it to succeed like a vanilla relationship does, but unlike a vanilla relationship, the work may not be split evenly. Respect needs to be given to both partners, even the submissive. Though they are subservient and lesser in status, they are still human (sometimes) and still deserve to be respected as such.

Let's do a comparison so that you can see the difference side-by-side.

For a vanilla relationship, the things that are necessary are:

• Faith/trust
• Communication
• Open-mindedness
• Equality
• Respect
• Good mental health
• The ability to forgive
• Love and caring
• Ability to understand and accept each other

Now, for a D/s relationship, the majority of those things are needed. But in contrast to that, equality of a D/s relationship is not necessary. I would never see my slave as my equal. There's nothing to it. They are my lesser, my lower, my submissive, my slave. But in being such, I highly regard their opinions and their suggestions. If we're picking out something like furniture and they have a preference for something else, I may consider their opinion and we may find something that we both like. But ultimately, it would be up to me. I went off on a bit of a tangent, so here is a list of things that I find necessary in a 24/7, BDSM relationship:

• Trust
• Communication
• Full awareness of the relationship and of expectations
• Respect
• A clear mind (especially for Dominants)
• To be able to take a breather
• Calm mental attitude
• Forgiveness
• Constant upkeep
• Order and discipline
• Obedience
• Control
• Service
• Ability to understand and accept each other
• Time management
• Self control

Notice how I did not put down love and caring for the BDSM relationship. I'm still on the rocks, honestly, of how necessary that is. You can be in a D/s relationship with someone and have it strictly be that, where the submissive and Dominant are nothing more than sub and Dom. For me, though, I think that it is necessary. I've been entering a very odd point in my life where being single has forced me to reevaluate what is necessary and what is not. We'll see, though. The main differences between vanilla and BDSM relationships is the intensity of those necessities. Yes, trust is necessary in a vanilla relationship, but when it comes to a BDSM relationship, it is so much more. If my submissive disobeys me, it isn't just, "Oh, they didn't do the dishes, we'll have a little tiff and move on." It's, "They disobeyed me, they betrayed me, now I'm going to have to punish them and hope that they learn to not do that again."

30 Days of Kink: Favorite Book

Day 21: Favorite BDSM-related book (fiction or non-fiction).

It's really hard to say what my favorite BDSM-related novel is. Everyone probably already knows my least favorite, since any time that it's brought up in conversation I make a face of disgust. But my favorite, that's harder to say. Most books that have anything to do with BDSM just turn me off because I always feel that they're not realistic, that they're more of fantasy than actuality. However, one series that I really love that is somewhat BDSM-related is actually a manga series entitled Doll.

The series takes place in present day and is about a society that has scientifically engineered human beings, or dolls. They are used for all sorts of things: sex, housecleaning, domination, companionship, and the impossible love. Dolls do not have any feelings. They can be engineered to, which is one person's purpose in the series as he attempts to make his doll actually feel, taste, understand, and grow. The reason why I like it isn't so much because it's a picture book but because it has a science fiction feel to it, and I just really love the story line. If they were to come out with a series that was purely a novel similar to Doll, I would love it.

There are actually a lot of short stories to follow in Doll, because every book has about three or so different families or relationships that they focus on, but the underlying plot is still in each. I found that to be kind of cool, because you got to look at how people use their dolls (some people used them to make amputees, others were into pony play, one woman had her male doll be her slave, and many more). Some of them were actually heartbreaking, and one story in particular where a mother is made to replace the child's actual mother was really sad because the doll mother was a better mother than the human one.

I read the series when I was fairly young, so it's surprising that I had such a pull to it and found some of the short stories to be really damn hot. Maybe one day I'll find a good science fiction novel that is BDSM-related or has some BDSM elements that I really love—I truly hope that I do.

30 Days of Kink: Questions for me?

Day 20: Questions from my readers and followers.

Since the original topic for Day 20 really didn't go well with me, I decided to take a few questions/topics from my blog and Twitter followers. The original topic was, "Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand." Which, in all honesty, there is not one thing that I'm curious about and that I don't understand. I'm not saying that I know everything, because I don't; I'm simply saying that, if introduced to something new, I would not shun it, and I would most likely try and learn as much about it as possible. Here are the questions that I received, and I hope that my answers help out!

1. Can a virtual relationship transition to "real" D/s?
Here's the deal with this one. There is no such thing as "real" D/s, only what one person defines it as and what one person feels it is. However, there are things to avoid and things that are general rules that should be followed. That being said, I feel that an online or long-distance relationship can certainly transition to an in-person, 24/7 D/s relationship. Very possible. My ex and I were long-distance and we met online, and we certainly transitioned rather easily to an in-person D/s relationship. Regardless of the horrors that went on in that relationship, it still made me believe that it's definitely possible to work out.

Here are some things to keep in mind if you do plan on transitioning from online to in-person:

• Make sure that you are both clear on your expectations of each other.
• Do not expect things to be exactly as you imagined them.
• Be open-minded and understanding.
• Be willing to grow with each other.
• Make sure that you discuss many facets of the lifestyle before engaging in something in-person.
• Get to know each other in-person before engaging in anything that may be considered extreme or edge play.
• Make sure to meet in a public place for the first few meetings, and be safe!

2. What's the proper (or improper) term for someone who just likes to be paddled, whipped, or general pain, but does not like D/S or role-playing or anything other than pain?
You know, in all honesty, there is no "proper" term for that, though the general term would be "kinky." Notice how I did not say that they were a kinkster or fetishist, because those are terms for people who are generally into the lifestyle itself. There's always the possibility that the person could simply be a vanilla individual who just likes to have a little fun sometimes. The real proper term is whatever the individual themselves deems proper. If they do identify as a kinkster or fetishist, then that's the proper term. If they identify as vanilla, then that would be the proper term. It's very broad, and there is no one "right" way.

3. Have you ever been the submissive in a relationship?
Technically speaking, many years ago, yes, I was. It was my first D/s relationship, and it honestly just wasn't me. I was very good at being subservient since I knew what I would want of someone who was mine, but it was false and it was me doing it because I thought that I had to. I was very young and thought that, because of that, I had to be submissive and subservient. But internally, that is not who I am. I had the mindset of being a Dominant since I was very small. It wasn't so much ordering people around as it was expecting better of them and expecting them to please me. Certain little hints of it when I was a child. Submission and slavehood was never anything that was in my personality coding. I have not since then, and do not plan to ever again. It's simply not who I am.

Thank you all for the questions, and I would love to do this again sometime! Remember, you can ask me questions any time on my formspring either anonymously or with your account. I try to answer all questions that seem like more than just spam, so feel free to ask me anything (so long as it's not offensive and/or discriminatory).

30 Days of Kink: How Kink Has Improved My Life

Day 19: Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life? If so, what are they?

I wouldn't say that kink has improved my life in any unexpected way, honestly. But it has made me improve as a person, an individual, a man, and an adult. Because of being into the lifestyle, I learned to manage another human being and more importantly, manage and control myself. I am still working on that when it comes to anger (I do have a problem with that when I become too emotionally attached to someone), but I am still learning and growing.

Because of being in the lifestyle, I've learned so much about where my place in life is, when I must bow and when I must stand, who I must bow to and who I need to overcome. It may sound odd for a Dominant to say, but I am not always in a Dominant role, though I am always dominant. My bosses and supervisors do have power over me, which I give them, gladly. If I had not been into this lifestyle (which I was born into it, so I do not believe that that would be possible anyway), I probably would be a bit more resistant, a bit more annoyed at having to bow down to someone. But because I realize my place in life, I'm able to have that balance, that knowledge that this person is my superior and in order to be given, I must give.

It's the same for slaves, I feel, and it's what I expect from a slave—that they give to me without expectations of receiving, simply for the fact that I am their superior and that they realize that fact. These are all things I would not have learned had I not been into the lifestyle.

In addition to all of my personal growth, I have met some amazing people and some great individuals who, even though they may not agree with me at times, are great to talk to and are very reliable in so many ways. It's a wonderful community to be a part of, and I am so glad that I am. Not only is it who I am intrinsically, it's enjoyable, fun, exciting, and an experience in and of itself every single day. And hey, I also learned how to throw a flogger, crack a whip, use a riding crop, smack a girl on the ass, and fuck real damn good. But that all comes with the territory.

Pete Trunks by SpareParts

The Pete line of packing underwear/straps by SpareParts makes packing a lot easier and a lot less bulky than wearing a regular strap or harness as would have otherwise been necessary. Now you can pack while wearing underwear because you'll be packing with your underwear, instead of having layers and layers underneath your clothing. No more worries of straps, adjusting buckles, or your packer sitting away from your body—now it just sits against you like it's your own appendage!

For now, let's talk about the trunks. They're form-fitting, have about an inch of length for the inseam, and are box-cut, which looks really sexy on most v-shaped body types. Individuals with more curvy/shapely bodies can wear them as well as they are very comfortable and very easy to wear under pants, skirts, shorts, or just alone! They also give that masculine feel, because trunks just line the package and ass so nicely. The elastic band is pretty stretchy, but in general, the trunks are tight, so keep that in mind before ordering. My trunks were a size small, which is stated as fitting 28" to 30" hips/waist. Edenfantasys does have their size chart listed, and I would say that it's pretty accurate. However, if you like a looser fit like me, buy a size up.

Made of the same material as the Joque and Theo harnesses, the Pete trunks are 88% nylon and 12% spandex-jersey blend. It's very similar to swimsuit material, but it doesn't pill after washing or wearing (thank god!). It hugs the ass and thighs, but surprisingly doesn't dig into the skin uncomfortably. However, the waistband does. I found the waistband to be slightly irritating, regardless of the fact that it fit me correctly. However, that could be because I'm used to my underwear having a bit of a looser fit.

Now, the part that makes the trunks special is the addition of the little pouch in the front where the pubic area is. Touching the skin are two overlaying flaps of the nylon/spandex material, which can be spread apart to put your packer or STP in. In front of that is another layer that has a small hole, which the shaft of the prosthetic can be pulled through. And finally, in front of that (the last layer) is the actual layer that is on the same level as the trunks themselves, and it has a slit on the side so that if you are wearing an STP, you can still use the bathroom regularly. Even though the hole is stretchy, I've noticed that the edges where it's sewn are starting to split a bit. That kind of saddens me, but what can you do? If wearing a packer, I suggest putting the packer in the trunks before pulling them up to try and prevent this from happening. Maybe me adjusting it with the trunks already on isn't such a good idea.

There was something odd about the make of these, though. On the layer of fabric where the hole is, there was this little elastic band. I wasn't sure what it was for, but I had read that you could put the back of your packer through it as well (or pull the shaft through that and then through the hole in the front). Well, I tried, and mine ripped clear off. Petty crappy, but what can you do? I ended up using a seam ripper to pull the rest of it off and just left it, since my prosthetic stays perfectly fine when it's just pulled through the hole in the middle layer.

The logo of the trunks.

To wrap this up, I want to say that I absolutely love my Pete trunks. They're really quite the cool pair of trunks, and they look good too! They make it much easier to pack since I don't have to let my prosthetic sit against my skin (which allows upkeep to be much easier) and I also don't have to worry about any mishaps, like my prosthetic falling out onto the floor, having it rub against me the wrong way, being uncomfortable/itchy, and having to constantly readjust. In fact, I rarely need to readjust myself when I'm wearing the SpareParts' Pete trunks, which is great.

Note: For cleaning, make sure to put these in the wash or hand wash these the first time alone. This is just to keep safe and keep the dye from getting on your other clothes. I know that I had a problem with my Joque and the dye rubbing off on other things, so I highly recommend washing the trunks with darks for their first time or separately/alone.

Wanting to purchase a pair of Pete trunks for yourself? Interested in the jock strap or briefs? Head on over to Edenfantasys to get your very own, and throw in a packer while you're at it! Get 15% off your total order when you enter the code B5P at your checkout. Happy shopping!

$39.95SpareParts Pete trunks packer Packing strap by SpareParts Material: Nylon / Spandex Buy from EdenFantasys

This product was provided free of charge to the reviewer.

30 Days of Kink: Pet Peeves in the Community

Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they?

Age/appearance discrimination. God, is that a big one for me. Generally speaking, the BDSM community is very accepting of others, regardless of shape, size, and general stature. However, if you appear young and small, some people assume "submissive, inexperienced." It's truly a shame. As someone who is extremely short, and very youthful in looks, it gets very aggravating to have to constantly correct people. No, I'm not submissive. No, I am not inexperienced. Yes, I am fully aware of my interests, likes, and dislikes. Yes, I know what I want from a relationship. I would not have a problem with correcting people so much if they actually accepted what I told them as truth and nothing else. I'm the type of person that dislikes it when people make assumptions, period. There's no reason to, and it's honestly unnecessary. It's better to ask what a person identifies as and accept them as such than to assume their identity based on their appearance.

After all, "Assume makes an ass out of you and me."

30 Days of Kink: Misconceptions

Day 17: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?

I sort of put answering this one off because it was a little hard for me. There are tons of misconceptions made about kinksters/fetishists by vanilla people that I just find to be absolutely absurd and horrible. I once came out to someone as being a full-time Dominant, and they thought that I was going to go "Texas Chainsaw Massacre" on them. That's a little out of line, even for me, and almost offensive. It makes me upset, and makes me understand just why people are so afraid of the kink community—they just don't understand it, whatsoever. There was actually a discussion on Eden Kink (my good friend VieuxCarre's group) about this very thing: misconceptions.

The one misconception that I believe needs to be addressed the most is that people who are into kink are all messed up in the mind and are secretly psycho killers. I'm sure that this may be true for some individuals who are into kink, as it's true for people who are vanilla as well. But that doesn't mean that every single one of us is a certified psychopath. I think that the reason why people think this way about most kinksters/fetishists is because BDSM just isn't something that they're used to. They see people being beat, cut into, made to cry, and put into states of humiliation and think that it's wrong because they don't see it the way that people into BDSM do. It's like tons of other things in the world that were shunned out of being misunderstood, including people of different skin tones, sexualities, and genders.

Though I'm sure that a lot of people would disagree with me and say that it simply "isn't the same," but I feel that it certainly is. Discrimination is discrimination, and most people who think that others are crazy or insane for being who or what they are is because they are discriminatory. If people were to look at it through that view, they may stop feeling that what people who are into BDSM do is so "crazy" and "insane." They might not ever be into it, and I don't expect them to be, but they may at least see that it's acceptable and alright to practice such things.

Mr. Limpy Extra Small by Fleshlight

Years ago, I received the wonderful Mr. Right packer. But alas, lately I've been feeling that having the look of a boner throughout the day is simply unprofessional and a bit irritating. So I decided to pick up the Mr. Limpy Extra Small so that I would look a bit less erect and a bit more out of the mood. And yes, I do dislike the name greatly. I wasn't too fond of "Mr. Right" either, but Mr. Limpy sounds creepy, to put it lightly.

And here are some pictures of the packer itself!

As the name would imply, Mr. Limpy is just that—a limp, flaccid packer. It's very petite, with a set of fairly large, extremely round testicles. The length of the cock is about three inches (yes, that's correct, three inches) and the testicles are about two. Though the size may seem off-putting, it's perfectly good for a packing size, unless you are planning on hard packing, which you certainly cannot do with Mr. Limpy. After all, it is flaccid. Wouldn't want to be having sex with a flaccid cock, now would you?

It's pretty good at stretching!

Mr. Limpy is very soft and plushy, which is extremely realistic considering the fact that it is supposed to resemble a flaccid penis. Putting my fingers on its surface, I can tell that it's certainly not "the real thing," but it does come close enough when it's under my clothing that I truly cannot tell the difference—and that's good enough for me! Sadly, the fact that it is a pink color instead of a flesh tone makes it a bit unsatisfying to me. That's actually why I didn't purchase it in the first place, regardless of the fact that it's so damn low-priced ($13!). It doesn't come in any other colors, which is kind of sad, because they should at least give the option of something cool, like blue, purple, or green. A green penis. Now that would be fun!

Poor little guy!

The design of Mr. Limpy is very important, because it's extremely realistic, down to the veins and folds of skin on the shaft and the razor bumps on its testicles (yes, those are indeed present). Mr. Limpy has a very convincing urethra that I honestly had to fight the urge to lick at because it's just so damn attractive. Same with the little ridges along the shaft that signify the unmistakable folds of a flaccid penis. Mr. Limpy does have a flat back, but that makes it better for sitting against the skin bare. If it's put inside of a harness or packing strap, then it also lays against the body much better than if it had fully rounded testicles. Sadly, the back of the testicles did have bubbles that seemed to be broken when it arrived in the box, so I've been trying to take good care of it so that it does not become ruined.

Something that's very important to realize is that Mr. Limpy is made of superskin, which is Fleshlight's brand of "ultra-realistic" material that they make all of their fleshlights out of. It has an odd, strong scent that doesn't really go away no matter how long you air it out and no matter how many times you wash it. Make sure that when you do wash it, you do not use soap—only a rinse with warm water and a dusting of cornstarch to maintain its soft, baby smooth feel. I definitely personally recommend the cornstarch, which you should probably dust once a week, at least. It really does help to keep Mr. Limpy nice and smooth and in good condition, considering the fact that superskin does not last as long as silicone does (like Mr. Right).

Mr. Limpy came in a small plastic packaging that was sealed closed. It's not reusable, so you may want to get out a ziploc baggie to store it in due to its scent. I personally just put it on my shelf and keep it there.

To wrap this up, I'm going to show a few more pictures of Mr. Limpy and also a couple of comparison pictures for your viewing and decision-making pleasure. Mr. Limpy is a cheap, great first (or last) packer and it's definitely great for trans- individuals or people who are simply wanting to experiment with packing. Its only real downfall is the fact that the material is so damn sensitive. But overall, for the price, it's worth buying. You can get it for $13 over at Edenfantasys, and if you'd like, use my code B5P at your checkout to get 15% off your entire order!

Me wearing Mr. Limpy (left) versus Mr. Right (right).

Size comparison shots; on the top is Mr. Right and on the bottom is Mr. Limpy.

Texture/plushness of the two packers.

$12.95Mr. Limpy extra small Packing dildo by Fleshlight Material: Superskin® Safety: Buy from EdenFantasys

30 Days of Kink: Difficulty with Being in the Lifestyle

Day 16: What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?

For me personally, everything about it has been difficult. I'm not too much interested in sex itself, to be fully honest. I can only get off when kink is involved. It's my lifestyle choice as well as a huge part of what turns me on and makes me orgasm. The problem with that is that it's very difficult not only to find a partner locally, but to find someone who is on the same wavelength as me.

I have a lot of interests that are generally thought of as "edgeplay," though I see them as quite common. The difficulty with that is that a lot of people are not willing to participate in them, and then it makes for a bad situation because I cannot get off, I am dissatisfied, and I am generally in a state of disappointment and aggravation. I've had a lot of trouble, actually, finding a mate. I was in a relationship with my girl for four years, and along the way had people who would have been better for me that I denied because I was caught up over her. Now, it's hard to find anyone. Funny how that works out.

I've tried, the past year or so, to find someone who I can be compatible with. People ranging from vanilla to extremely into BDSM. As it stands, I am a Dominant without my other. I have a few people who may be possibilities for the future, but I'm content with being single at the moment. It's not the most desirable, but it happens. I have a play partner who basically serves a purpose of, "Hey, I've got something I want to try out, want to come over?" And I do the same for them. However, it's nothing beyond that.

Another difficulty is outside of relationships completely, like with friends or coworkers. Especially someone like me who is open about everything that I'm into. I never hold back, and it sometimes puts people off when they ask me, "So what do you look for in a partner?" and I tell them point-blank what I look for. I know that I have put some people off at my job in regards to it, so I try to not discuss such matters in the workplace anymore. But if I am asked questions, I do not lie: I tell it like it is. Not my fault that someone else asked me a question regarding my lifestyle! I'm hoping that it doesn't get me fired in the future.

But in reality, I am content with how things are right now. I go to my local dungeon every once in a while now, and it's good for me because I'm getting more involved in the local scene than I had before. It's not necessary that I have a partner or significant other, though it would be nice. I am happy with life as it is.

30 Days of Kink: Curiosity

Day 15: Post a BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.

I've always loved the allure of attending a masquerade or going to a ball and pursuing my lover, or the person that I've honed in on for the night. I find it to be incredibly hot, arousing, attractive, and sexy—I've simply never done it yet. Someday I will, I know that for a fact, but just not yet.

Another thing that I'm terribly interested in is the slave trade market. Not the actual one, no, but slave-trading between Dominants. Putting up slaves for auction and bidding on them, just for fun. I've always had this extreme interest in attending a slave trade, bidding for an extremely rowdy and resistant slave who needs to be taught a lesson, or a shy and frightened slave who doesn't know what the hell is going on. Either one would work, because both could be extremely fun in certain situations.

In all honesty, this one was hard to answer because I've never been a curious person, or I've always acted on my interests. So even though I decided to list these kinks as ones that I'm curious about, they could only be considered curiosities because I've never actually participated or played them out.

30 Days of Kink: Reality vs. Fantasy

Day 14: How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink, how do you think it might differ?

This is actually a very serious topic to me, considering the fact that I've met many people who were not serious about the lifestyle and who were simply playing around or living out their fantasies in the bedroom alone. That's not me, as most everyone knows. I'm into it 24/7, full-time. It's not just a play, bedroom sort of thing for me, though I do like to have fun during sex and I do like to play around. The lifestyle itself, however, is very serious to me.

Real life BDSM is nothing like how it's portrayed in most individuals' fantasies. It's not all fun and games, it isn't all wonderful and perfect, and a Dominant doesn't always come down, say every which thing that is right and exactly as one might expect. A slave isn't always on her best behavior, a slave isn't always in perfect health, they do not always do as they're told. Being flogged actually hurts like a bitch, and being caned hurts even more.

BDSM can be written time and time again, but even I cannot do it any justice, to be fully honest. A fantasy is just that: a fantasy. It's nothing more than what the mind has contrived to be real, what the mind thinks actuality may be. That's not to say that BDSM isn't sexy, hot, attractive, wonderful. It is, in my opinion. I find it to be perfection. But when people have fantasies, they tend to make things contrived and false, rather than seeing it for what it truly is.

Things that are tangible differences are definitely bedroom play vs. what actually goes on day by day. I'm not the type of Dominant who is always going to bend my slave over my lap and smack them across the ass when they've done something wrong. I'm sure that that would be ideal both for my partner and me, but it gets tiring. Play has always been a once in a while thing. The thing that is constant is the power exchange, the roles that we each play in the relationship. People who fantasize or imagine BDSM think of it as something in the bedroom that ends once you walk through the doorway. No way is that how it is for me. The roles are constant, the play aspect is not.

Another thing about fantasies vs. realities is that they never seem to play out exactly how we envision them. Which isn't always a bad thing, sometimes they end up being better than we expected! So it's better, I feel, for people to give the real thing a try, and if they don't like it, stick to their fantasies, because fantasies are very different from truth.

30 Days of Kink: Attraction

Day 13: Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you. Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?

God, to even describe the appeal of BDSM is to attempt to give a reason for mankind. I have no idea what it is that draws me to it. I could list tangible things, like the feeling of excitement, amusement, and pleasure it gives me, but when it truly is broken down, I have no idea. I wish that I did know, though. It would help me in a lot of areas to know.

It makes no sense to me, why I was drawn to it. I never was drawn to it. It's just a fact of life that I've always known. It developed. Nothing in particular attracted me, nothing phased me. I honestly thought that BDSM relationships were how every couple was when I was younger, I didn't know that people could be vanilla. So I was born into this world thinking that everything was just so, was just that way. But it's not, obviously.

When I was five years old, I knew that I was into handcuffs and shackles. And maybe that's not the level that I'm at now, yes, my identity developed as the years went on. But isn't that true for anything? A relationship develops, people develop. It's not that my interests changed, it's simply that I grew up. So to even define the appeal, I cannot.

I think that the only thing that I've ever been truly drawn to was sex toy use, in all honesty. Not BDSM. BDSM was my constant, it was something that I was always aware of and that I always knew of. Vibrators drew me to them when I realized that, hey, maybe it can be fun to use them on a partner and tease them.

My Bedroom

A friend requested to see my room once I finally cleaned it (yes, this is as clean as it's going to get while I'm still working and in college), so here are the photos of my room in full. Hopefully you can spot my goodies (under-the-bed restraint system). Looks pretty nice and vanilla, doesn't it? How amusing.

30 Days of Kink: Laughing

Day 12: Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had. If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.

Though it probably isn't humorous to most, one of my funniest bdsm moments was when I spanked my ex with a bible. She was pissing me off, we were in a horrible fight, and she started banging her head with whatever was closest, which in this case happened to be the bible. So I took it from her, turned her around, and spanked her with it. I found it amusing, at least.

In terms of bdsm as a whole, I think that I find a lot of things amusing, not funny, however. I laugh a lot, during sex, during scenes, during interrogation. I'm either extremely serious or I'm smirking/grinning/laughing at something or other. I will call someone a slut and start smirking or laughing at the fact that I called them a slut. I'm not sure whether that ruins the mood or not, but I cannot quite help it. I find it to be amusing, and when I find things amusing, I laugh or grin uncontrollably.

I do not think that it's possible for me to find anything about a given lifestyle to be funny. It may amuse me (and mind you, though I didn't clarify this before, when I say amusing, I truly mean amusing as in sexually exciting, arousing, or interesting), but I still would not find it to be funny, per se. We've all got our things. Mine is BDSM, so I see no reason to find it funny.

30 Days of Kink: Ethics

Day 11: What are your views on the ethics of kink?

There's a line that's always drawn between abuse and what's acceptable in BDSM relationships. Me, I've always sort of teetered on that line, to be fully honest, both on the receiving and giving end. I've done some things that I'm not proud of, and I've had things done to me that I'm not particularly happy about either. However, it's always been a learning experience and an increased knowledge both of myself and how I react to things.

But in terms of a general idea of my views on such things, it's hard to say. I do not believe that a safe word is necessary. I do not believe that people need to necessarily fit to one standard or rule. I also do not believe that consent is always necessary. You can disagree or agree with me however you'd like, but I do feel that when someone is my slave, the need for a safe word, the right to their body, and their right to choose what I do with it is gone. That being said, it is my duty as their owner to take care of and cherish them as if they were my own flesh and blood.

But let's talk about BDSM as a whole, and the ethics on it as a lifestyle. I honestly think that there's nothing wrong with being in a BDSM-centered relationship, which makes sense considering the fact that I myself am into the 24/7 lifestyle. Many people do not understand or misinterpret what being a slave or Dominant really means—some people think that it means abuse, or that it's silly, that it's roleplaying, or that it's a game. But to me, they are roles and they are who we are. Because of that, I do not understand why there's a problem with being into BDSM. A person cannot control who they are. They can control their actions, how they act upon things, but if two consenting individuals decide to engage in a 24/7, D/s or M/s relationship, then that is their business, their choice, and their right.

30 Days of Kink: Limits

Day 10: What are your hard limits?

I usually tell people that I only have two limits: scat and animals. Which is generally true, honestly, however I do have many more. The only things that I absolutely will not ever do are those, but there are many other things that I'm not fond of/not interested in. One of them is submission—simply not me, whatsoever. Another is when people tell me to do something or tell me what I should be doing. If it's a coworker or higher up, then I'm not too bad with it and can bow down, so to speak, but if someone who is my equal or lesser tells me to do something, it gets me a bit annoyed.

But those are more of pet peeves, aren't they? Not really hard limits of mine, and considering the fact that I would never be with someone who would expect or want such things of me, I suppose that I'm all good there. But the two that I definitely will not touch or do are scat and animals. That doesn't mean that I'm not into anal, because I am. But the thought of licking, eating, touching, or enjoying someone else's...simply makes me a bit sick to my stomach. When it comes to animals, I am actually also alright with furries and pet play. In fact, I love pet play. I love it when my partner acts like a kitty or puppy and crawls to me. I love having my slave on a leash. But animals outside of human beings, I will not touch.

I think that outside of that, I would try most things. I'm not much into vac beds or hoods, but if my partner was interested, I would indulge their interests and give it a go.

30 Days of Kink: Kinky Media

Day 9: Post a kink related song or music video you enjoy.

Since I'm extremely boring, one of the songs that sticks out in my mind as very bdsm-reminiscent is Master and Servant by Depeche Mode, for obvious reasons. I've always really loved Depeche Mode and The Cure, so I'll also post their song Fascination. It's extremely damn hot. Also, I'll post some more recent videos that drive me mad with their beautiful scenes, fetishwear, and styles.

Alright, so that's enough of me posting videos for now. Enjoy, have fun!

30 Days of Kink: Erotic Photographs

Day 8: Post a kinky image you find erotic.

First, let me direct you to my Tumblr, since I post practically every photograph that I find attractive, erotic, a turn-on, or that encompasses one or more of my interests. Now I'll post some of my most favorite photographs and animated images for your enjoyment.