Petitioning to be Mine

Since I've been reading posts about people asking how they should ask for a Dominant's collar, I decided to write a little list of what I expect (or what I'd like) a submissive to include in their proposition to serve me. Keep in mind that I am a Dominant, so this is what I would like to see, not necessarily what a submissive would like to give. Every Dominant is different though, so before petitioning someone, ask them what they would appreciate included; open communication is always a must when it comes to any type of relationship.

  1. Ask to be my submissive and not for me to be your Dominant. See the different connotation there? I cannot stress this enough. Also acceptable is asking to be bestowed my collar, not to receive it. Saying "May I have ..." comes across as entitled and also rude and assumptive  it is not humble at all. Asking to be bestowed my collar is much more pleasant and shows that you are aware of your place. (On that note, I do not collar people easily. I cannot honestly say that I have formally collared anyone, really; the times that I have collared people, it was not a formal collaring ceremony. Assuming that I'm going to give anything more than a consideration collar for a while is improper, because I will not.)
  2. List, in detail, what you are offering in terms of service.
    1. What do you excel at?
    2. What forms of service do you enjoy performing?
  3. List, in detail, what you would like to improve on either while serving me or in general.
    1. What forms of service would you like to become more proficient at?
    2. Are there any types of service that you dislike performing?
    3. Any habits that you would like to get rid of?
  4. Tell me why you feel that you deserve to serve me. Note: Many would disagree with this, but I feel that it's necessary for a person to tell me why they deserve to be at my feet. If they have no reason, that is fine, but they should try to find a tangible reason.
  5. Write about how you feel about me as a person.
    1. What you like, what you dislike.
    2. Be completely honest.
    3. Recognize both my faults and strong points.
  6. Tell me what you'd require my help and assistance with and what level of patience you need in order for you to serve me to your optimal potential.
  7. List any expectations that you have from me. Again, be upfront and honest; do not hide your desires.
  8. Tell me what form of arrangement you are interested in  romantic, strictly D/s, one transitioning into the other?
  9. Tell me how long of a time span you would like to serve me for.
  10. Tell me what level of protocol you're interested in.
    1. Let me know if you want to start at that level or if you want to build up to that level.
    2. Be honest if you need help; do not be too proud or prideful.
  11. Tell me your limits and areas that you would prefer to not have crossed.
    1. Make sure to note whether it's a hard limit or one that can be pushed at my discretion.
  12. Define submission and service. Tell me what it means to you to be submissive and to serve another.

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